The letter I really want them to read

Dear Clinic Worker,

You entered the abortion industry because you wanted to help women. You were told that illegal abortion was dangerous. You didn’t want to see that happen to anyone. You came in with the right intentions.

It could be that you just needed a job. Maybe you really didn’t know what Planned Parenthood was all about. Now, you do know. Now you see what abortion really is and you may feel uncomfortable, but how do you leave?

You may be a single mom or maybe you are woman who is supporting her whole family during this terrible economy. Maybe this is the first time you have ever had a job that offered insurance, not just for you, but also for your children.

How will you be able to support your family? You’re doing the right thing anyway, right? Maybe you’re at the point where you aren’t sure anymore.

You see people outside praying. You don’t know what they are doing. Are they praying for you or just the women going in to have abortions? You are told every day that they are dangerous and want to harm you, but is that really true?

You have seen some crazy “pro-lifers.” Sometimes, they may yell at you or you have heard those stories from other workers you know. Sometimes, they say hateful things. You hear about bombings at other clinics and workers who are killed and wonder if  these are the same people.

Your employer tells you they are. Some of them seem like they really want to help you, but you know you could never really trust them. They are the enemy, right?

You just don’t understand why people say that you coerce women into having abortions. You don’t think you are coercing them. It seems like you are just helping them make the best decision.

I mean, a 14 year old shouldn’t be forced to have a baby. In fact, you received training on how to talk about abortion in “tough situations.” These women don’t seem to be upset when they come back. In fact, they are happy about the decision they made. They can’t thank you enough.

So, where are all these people that “regret” their abortions? You don’t see them. You tell women that “abortion is normal” and that women don’t feel sad after their abortion, and maybe that is actually true.

Sometimes, women ask about their baby before the abortion. You don’t really know what to say. You haven’t been taught anything about fetal development. You really want to answer their questions, but you don’t know what the answers are.

So, you think you have to say something to ease the woman’s mind. You have only been taught about abortion. You know every detail of the abortion procedure. Why can’t these patients just stick to facts about abortion, that’s what they are here for anyway.

People ask you where you work, you aren’t sure why, but you always feel embarrassed to talk about it. Instead of telling them, “I work at an abortion clinic,” you simply say, “I work at a doctor’s office.” You just want to avoid the whole “abortion” conversation. Your family intentionally avoids talking about your job. It almost feels like they are embarrassed by what you do to earn a living.

You hear about former abortion clinic workers. They are called, ”traitors”. When people talk about them, they always say how they betrayed women, how they betrayed the whole pro-choice movement. But, you wonder how they did it? How did they get out? How could they just leave everything behind? All of their friends, money, and stability. You have heard that pro-lifers helped them when they wanted to leave? Would they help you, too?

Yes, we will. We will help you. We want to help you. You are able to trust us. We don’t just want you to leave the abortion industry, we want a change in your life. We want you to find peace and happiness.

You probably haven’t felt those things in a while. We know it will be hard for you to step out and trust people that are supposed to be your enemy. However, if you are willing to just take that first step, then we will hold your hand through this difficult transition.

The road out of the abortion industry is not an easy one. Some people will question your conversion. Some pro-lifers will not trust you and some will even say terrible things about you.

Remember, you don’t want to leave in order to become popular. You want to leave because it is the right thing to do. Your current friends at work will desert you. Remember that right remains right, even if no one is doing it and wrong remains wrong, even if everyone is doing it.

You will literally be starting over. Even though that sounds like it would be really lonely, it’s not. It is the best new life you could ever ask for.

You may be confused and scared. Don’t be. We are here. We are waiting. We are praying.



Caring pro-lifer